Your first supervised visit can feel nerve-wracking — for you and your child. That's completely normal. A little preparation goes a long way toward making the visit comfortable, positive, and focused on what matters: your time with your child.
Before the visit
- Confirm the details. Know the date, time, and location. Plan to arrive 10–15 minutes early so you're settled before your child arrives.
- Pack a small bag. Snacks, drinks, diapers or wipes if needed, and a comfort item for younger children. If your child has a favourite game, book, or toy, bring it — familiar things ease nerves.
- Dress comfortably. You'll likely be playing, sitting on the floor, or going for a walk. Wear something you can move in.
- Read the visit rules. Your service agreement and intake cover the ground rules. If anything is unclear, ask before the visit — not during.
During the visit
- Let your child lead. Follow their cues. If they're shy at first, don't force it — sit nearby, offer an activity, and give them time to warm up.
- Keep conversation child-focused. Talk about their school, friends, hobbies, and your time together. Avoid discussing the court case, the other parent, or adult disagreements — the supervisor will intervene if these come up.
- Follow the supervisor's direction. The supervisor is there to keep the visit safe and neutral. If they redirect you, it's not personal — cooperate calmly.
- Stay off your phone. This time is for your child. Unless it's an emergency, keep the phone away.
- No whispered conversations or secret messages. Everything should be open and audible — that's part of what keeps visits safe.
What not to bring
- Gifts meant to compete with the other parent or "buy" affection — small, thoughtful items are fine; extravagant ones create pressure.
- Anyone who isn't approved to attend. Only people named in your agreement should come.
- Alcohol, cannabis, or anything impairing — arrive sober, every time.
Saying goodbye
Endings can be the hardest part. Keep goodbyes warm but brief — long, emotional farewells are tougher on children. A simple "I had a great time with you, I'll see you soon" is perfect. Avoid making promises about when you'll see them next unless it's already scheduled.
After the visit
Give yourself and your child some space to decompress. If something during the visit worried you, note it down and raise it with the service afterward — not with your child. Remember that the supervisor writes a factual report after every visit; consistent, positive visits build the record that matters.
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Our intake covers both parents plus a child orientation, so everyone knows what to expect before visit one.